By Swami Chetanananda
Most of our attitudes and opinions become formed in a family system, which for, many of us, was dysfunctional. We can also say our attitudes and our opinions have been formed in the past, as they are part of the disappointments of our ancestors from long ago. That deep past goes back long before this body even existed. Our attitudes and opinions were formed ages ago, and they were just sitting there waiting for a body to emerge around them so that they could fully flower. If we are living in our attitudes and opinions, where are we constantly going to go with them? That’s easy -- around and around and around again in our past.
So it becomes important for us to understand that nothing that we see today and will see tomorrow is anything at all like yesterday. While we understand the concept that every day is a new day, most people every new day bring the same attitudes and opinions they had yesterday. You know what that’s called, don’t you? I call it Ground Hog Day. To make the effort to reach inside ourselves, beneath those tensions, and find some fundamental goodness that is ever present in ourselves that we so strangely, rarely access, and begin to engage that part of ourselves and bring it to the forefront and open ourselves and allow ourselves to be open and reeducated every day, is to begin to completely transform ourselves.
The one ingredient in our chemistry that allows for all the lessons that we experience to be absorbed into the deepest place inside us, instead of endlessly reinforcing our attitudes and our opinions, is gratitude. When you find that fundamental goodness in yourself and you start to be able to access it in your daily life, instead of being totally controlled by your past, you will find many reasons to be grateful. Feeling that gratitude, absorbing it into yourself, and becoming that gratitude does not take a lot of effort.
Having desires is almost always a problem. That’s because desires take us out of ourselves. We start reaching for things that we think we need instead of reaching inside to connect to that fundamental goodness inside us to grow the love and the joy and the gratitude in us to the degree that that love and joy and gratitude attracts into our life everything that we need.
The only desire we should cultivate is the desire to grow. In desiring to grow, all of our desires will be transformed into the experience of an abundance that is already inside us just waiting for the chance to spring out and show itself. We get so caught up in our opinions and attitudes and our habitual ways of doing things that we’re constantly allowing our creative energy to be consumed by an inner struggle that gives no benefit whatsoever. The struggle just eats you alive, and it does nothing.
The yogis, saints, the accomplished masters of all spiritual traditions, came to a place within themselves where they were able to enjoy every moment and every breath, fully. Pain or sorrow or struggle or whatever, these are the moments of our life. What other moments have you got? You’ve got a different moment? These are the moments of our life, and instead of getting all tangled up in what we want and we don’t want, and where we’re going or we’re not going, or whatever, the great spiritual people understood, these are the moments of our life. We don’t have different moments. Be ambivalent about pain or joy. Be above it all. Don’t be attached to what comes and what goes, because there‘s always coming and going.
The ascended masters understood whatever it is that presents itself is presented by the goddess, the breath of life itself. The way we see what is presented is due to our own karma. Karma is the accumulated tensions of our family system, our attitudes, our opinions, everything. If we stay connected to our body, aware of our breath, quietly enjoying the moments of our life, pretty soon we will start to feel our breath dissolve our body and dissolve this worldly experiential context, and we’ll be some place completely different. That place is completely quiet, completely peaceful, completely beautiful.
My advice is: rather than wasting your time on desires, enjoy each and every moment of your life. Don’t waste your time fighting with your friends. Don’t waste your time wanting something different from your kids. Don’t waste your time with any of that struggle. The more you cultivate the experience of enjoyment in these moments the more healthy and fit you will be physically, the happier you will be, the more love you will experience in your life, and the more all the things you think you want will naturally appear in your life as an effect of the abundance which is overflowing in you. Don’t struggle with desire. Let it go; let it all go.
The only thing that endures is the breath of life. That breath of life, of which you are an expression, of which you are an effect of, that breath of life endures. Enjoying the moments of your life, all of your struggles are dissolved into the breath of life. In that process of dissolution, we come to understand that we’re nothing but the breath of God. The beauty of that experience is absolutely intense and indescribable. It shatters every tiny small attitude and opinion and desire that we could possibly have.